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Last night I attended an Autism Support meeting in our home town. Our county has an amazing woman named Nancy Conner who is the Autism coordinator. She puts together meetings each month to help teach parents different parenting techniques and to help us understand some of the why’s behind our children’s behaviors. Last night’s presentation was on behavior. She had tons of great information that is vital to all parent’s – whether they have children with special needs or not.
One of my favorite points that she talked about last night was teaching our children why and teaching them about how our actions effect the way others feel. For example, instead of simply telling your child don’t cheat at Candy Land, explain to them that cheating makes others angry. When people have to cheat they are not playing fair and people remember that you did not play fair. The next time you want someone to play with you people won’t want to because they will remember that you don’t play fair.
Now, you don’t need to give a lecture – just a few sentences on why and how their actions effect others will do. Teaching your children about feelings not only help teach them how to respect others and how to communicate their feelings to others. Communicating how you feel is vital! And it’s a very important skill that needs to be taught.
This week your challenge is to evaluate how you are speaking to your children. You are teaching them how to act, but are you teaching them why they need to act that way? This is something I am really going to be working on this week at our house!
So your challenge this week is to