Our loss, what I’ve learned and a personal challenge to you
(Josh and Andy holding a 6 week old baby Lion this past summer)
If you have noticed the past month I have been a little absent – especially the last week, I want to apologize. Our family has suffered two losses recently and we are trying to work through everything to find our new ‘normal’. Andy is not my son’s biological father. He is proof that a father is much more than just blood and a last name, but rather than the love between a man and his child. I am very thankful not only to him, but to his parents, sisters, aunts, uncles and to his grandmother for bringing us into their families and loving us. I know that this is the place and these are the people that we belong with.
(Andy’s Mom and Dad. This was taken on the last day he was awake and able to get up and move around. I feel so blessed that we were able to get pictures taken that day!)
But the past week has been hard. Andy’s dad, Earl, lost his fight with cancer on January 31st. He was strong, funny, honest and true to his faith. He was a man of true talent, a loving heart and he would drive you crazy shooting the moon in Euchre. The love that he shared with his wife was inspiring and has set the bar high for my marriage with Andy. I’m sad because my son has lost a wonderful role model, Andy has lost one of his best friends and I have lost someone who I have a lot of love and respect for.
The day of Earl’s funeral we got a phone call that Grandma Mary (Earl’s mother and Andy’s grandmother) had been admitted into the hospital. She was one of the sweetest women I have met who loved her family and God more than anything. She also loved shopping and getting great deals at Kohl’s so you can see why we got along so well! She has suffered through health problems of her own as well as suffering from the loss of her son a few days prior. She was a true hero in the eyes of her family who worked hard raising her children, was there for each one of her grandchildren (and great grandchildren and even great, great grandchildren) and worked hard to shine God’s love on each person that she met. If you asked her about her dialysis she didn’t grumble about being there nine hours a week, instead she would tell you about the friends who she had met. She is a true example of a Godly woman.
Today we laid Grandma to rest. During both services, for Earl and Mary, the same thought has crossed my mind – look at all of these people. Look at the influence, the impact that one person has had on so many people. And while I watched people come and go at the viewings I thought about the impact that they have had and will have on my heart, but I couldn’t help but think what kind of impact am I making on the people I meet? If something were to happen what would people have to say about me? Would I have made the impact that I wanted? It was a true reminder that I needed to evaluate myself and to set my own kind of personal goals.
I’m so privileged and glad that I got to meet these amazing people. I think both of them have left a wonderful legacy with their family and I hope that I can carry on their love, compassion, and zest for life and make the world around me a better place.
So while this may not be a Mom Challenge this week, it’s more of a personal challenge. Think of the legacy that you are working on. Is it one that you would be proud to leave?
Bloggy Conference (part 1)
I’ve been in Cincinnati the past few days at Bloggy Con! Oh my gosh. Honestly, first of all let me just say that I felt so honored to even be in the presence of such awesome women (and a few great men!). It was seriously a group of really talented and really caring people. I learned so much and so much fun. I am so thankful for the new friendships I made!
The first day at Bloggy Con we listed to key note speaker Phil Hollows (Twitter: @phollows). He started the company FeedBlitz. His speech was so motivating!
The food was SO good! If you’ve never been to Johnny Rockets before — you HAVE to go! 🙂
Nathan Engels (@weusecoupons) aka Mr. Coupon with his fries. If you have never been to his site you must — visit it here. He’s one of those BIG time bloggers – and was one of the nicest most down to earth people I’ve ever met! In fact I stole him on Thursday to try to learn all of his secrets. I really did – I held his swag bag hostage in my hotel room until he told me all kinds of stuff. LOL – no the truth is he got the bag for his wife and didn’t want to carry a Pink Thirty-One bag (they were SUPER cool!) as we walked downtown to Johnny Rockets! 🙂 But I did make him give me advice for it back!!
Johnny Rockets isn’t just food – they dance!! All the servers did a great job! (those poor people had no idea when they were going into work that they were about to get their photos/videos take and uploaded onto 150 women’s blogs!! lol)
Have you ever held a lion? Been kissed by a camel?
I may be in some trouble…
*Update: He’s 9! 🙂 Thanks for all the answers – keep ’em coming! 🙂 They are so appreciated!!
How I do it: Part 3 Meal Planning
How I do it – part 2 – Cleaning Schedule & printable
I list my daily cleaning items.
1 load of laundry – start to finish (finishing laundry is the hardest for me. I like to either keep it in the dryer – and keep resetting the dryer OR fold it and keep it in the laundry basket. Don’t ask why putting it away is the worst it just is)
Make the beds
Pick up the clutter
Clean up the dishes after each meal
Clean up the counters/table after each meal
Then, I have a schedule (told you I’m completely a type A person..with a little OCD. I’ll leave it at that so I don’t embarrass myself).
Monday: Master bedroom
Tuesday: Bathroom
Wednesday: Josh’s room
Thursday: Living room/Hall
Friday: Kitchen
Saturday: Outside
Each room has a few specific chores that I do in it. We have a small house – just 2 bedrooms and 1 bath so it works out that I just have to do one room a day.
And don’t forget that calendar! So today. Today was Tuesday. I did my daily items and I cleaned the bathroom. (Yuck). On my cleaning calendar I have things listed that are more deep cleaning things that maybe don’t get thought of too often. Today it was clean the shower curtains. Check. (Tomorrow is clean the washing machine in case anyone cared!)
If you want to download and print my cleaning schedule go here. I made sure to save it in a way that you can change anything on there and personalize it the way you want!
Come back tomorrow for more on my planner – and I’ll share about how to have the easiest meal planning system EVER!
How I do it – Getting organized my FREE printable planner
Anyways.
Our Florida trip…